being mirrored...

On Sunday, Goom and I were kicking a soccer ball around in a park with a couple friends, when he came over pointing to a little girl who was crying because of a scratch she had received from a fall off her scooter.

He nudged me towards her.

“What? What do you want me to do?” I said gently, concerned for the girl even though she was being taken care of by her mother.

“I want you to go take care of her.”

“Why? Her mother’s there.”

“Because you take of everyone,” he said and then quickly went back to kicking the soccer ball.

I melted. There are moments as a mother when you question yourself. Wondering what kind of job you are doing. Hoping that even when you are tough, somehow they know it is for their greatest good.

A moment like this is an affirmation, that yes, you are doing things well.

He mirrored me in a most profound and unexpected way. I couldn’t ask for anything more than to be viewed as nurturing by my son; especially when I didn’t have a role model to learn from.
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GYPSYWOMAN said…
what an absolute angelchild!!! you know what they say, out of the mouths of babes! and he so has it right!!! beautiful!
November 10, 2009 at 5:04 PM
Anonymous said…
He mirrored me in a most profound and unexpected way. I couldn’t ask for anything more than to be viewed as nurturing by my son....AMAZING U R!

peace
November 10, 2009 at 5:10 PM
Menopausal New Mom said…
Stacey, that's beautiful, what a wonderful feeling you must have had from your son's words. He must think you have the magic touch that makes every boo boo better! Well done!

Deb
November 10, 2009 at 5:17 PM
Anonymous said…
What a lovely story! You are obviously a great mom!
November 10, 2009 at 5:18 PM
Roni Loren said…
Your son sounds amazing. I hope I can raise mine to be as empathetic and kind as yours is.
November 10, 2009 at 5:41 PM
Debra She Who Seeks said…
A wonderful moment to treasure forever!
November 10, 2009 at 5:43 PM
kj said…
is mine the first comment?

that is an honor i welcome, one mother to another, at a moment when a little boy's affirmation hovers overhead, blessing his mother in the bestest way ever.

much love back,
guess
November 10, 2009 at 6:11 PM
JenJen said…
What a clever boy...and so sweet.
I think I'll stay...I'm feeling oogley-boogley, actually.
November 10, 2009 at 6:36 PM
Brian Miller said…
that was adorable and heart felt...and his words speak volumes of you. smiles.
November 10, 2009 at 7:05 PM
ramesh sadasivam said…
U must have felt great! Nice to hear this. Photo is very good. Tells the story by itself.
November 10, 2009 at 7:43 PM
Natalie said…
Awww! What a sweetheart! I love those moments. They make all the sacrifice worthwhile.
November 10, 2009 at 8:16 PM
Susan R. Mills said…
What an amazing compliment you received from your son. You should feel good about yourself, and your son.
November 10, 2009 at 8:18 PM
Gaia said…
oh no, now he will have a role model for his wife to learn from. hee hee
But it is so sweet that he feels that way about you, becos you are a loving, caring mum. Bless you dear.
November 10, 2009 at 9:31 PM
Bhavesh Chhatbar said…
Stacey, this is just very touching. I like your way of living, and somehow I feel that you are a noble person.

Keep up the good things you do, and always add to it. Life is so beautiful. Live it to the fullest.

Thanks so much for your kind visit to my blog.

Dagdusheth Ganpati
November 10, 2009 at 9:48 PM
Simply Mel {Reverie} said…
Oh the beautiful words from the mouths of babes...
November 10, 2009 at 10:04 PM
Maria said…
you've got a good kid there, Stacey!
November 10, 2009 at 11:30 PM
Shadow said…
out the mouth of babes.... you're doing a great job!
November 11, 2009 at 12:18 AM
Boozy Tooth said…
Terrific! I love that your guy recognizes the loving and nurturing part of you. He's deep. And you're both very lucky!
November 11, 2009 at 12:28 AM
Vodka Mom said…
Those tiny moments that open our eyes are precious. I'm so glad you were able to see it.


Some people don't. :-)
November 11, 2009 at 3:29 AM
Zuzana said…
I do not have children, but I think I can understand the sentiment here. One will always wonder whether one is doing things right; moments like these must be a wonderful confirmation that such is indeed the case.
xo
Zuzana
November 11, 2009 at 3:48 AM
Mike said…
Not even knowing you, I got the sense that you would be a nurturing person!
November 11, 2009 at 6:54 AM
Sahildeki Ev said…
So sweet...I think you are a great mom..
November 11, 2009 at 7:42 AM
Claus said…
I have always said and thought that one of the biggest responsibilities there are in life is to be a parent. With all one sees in the world these days, one can't help but wonder what went wrong and how the parents must feel like. It must bring a great comfort, to say the very least, when you have moments like this and see that they are taking the right path. Good for you. Good for Goom. *hugs*
November 11, 2009 at 8:22 AM
Anonymous said…
Oh Stacey, that's the biggest compliment in the world from a child.

Secretia
November 11, 2009 at 8:35 AM
Captain Dumbass said…
Obviously you're doing something right. Good job.
November 11, 2009 at 9:27 AM
Deb said…
That's beautiful Stacey!
November 11, 2009 at 9:54 AM
Tracie said…
I love your kid more with each post about him. You have done a wonderful job raising him!
November 11, 2009 at 11:41 AM
Renee said…
Stacey you are doing a magnificent job with your son.

He is so caring and loving and that comes from you.

I am sorry that you weren't nurtured but boy you turned out lovely.

xoxoxo
November 11, 2009 at 11:42 AM
Miss KB said…
This brought tears to my eyes. I am not yet a mother, but someday hope to be... However I know that my Momma was a wonder woman who, like yourself, would take care of everyone. What a sweet thing for your son to say and he probably didnt even realize it :)
November 12, 2009 at 9:29 AM
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