pearls of wisdom...

Last night I went to Monday Night Conversations with Breck Costin, my “life coach” (for lack of a better word). He is a wise man who is able to break people away from their egos so they are free (if they are willing to do the work). It is no easy task. The ego loves to hold on and if it feels challenged it will strengthen its grip. Breck is able to expose the ego by his wisdom and intuition. It is a real treat to watch and learn from.

Last night was no different. I didn’t have any issues to bring up so I sat, journal in hand listening and learning from what other’s had to say.

It was a challenging night. I'm always amazed to witness people atrophied in their egos. Throughout the night I kept picturing a frozen Han Solo with a mournful look on his face. Even though people are smiling, their spirits suffer. But I will not go into the details of others. It is not my place. But I wonder, does Breck ever give up on people?

Our images are created based on what we think we need to survive. For example when I did Breck’s Absolute Freedom Course last January one of my first tasks was to identify attributes of my image/ego. Here were some of them - know it all, competent, wounded, secret contracts, watched, tough, controlling, paused, frustrated, not expressed, expect failure, controlled, left abandoned…all developed to survive in my family. It wasn’t pretty but once identified, I felt a little wiggle room. I no longer defended these aspects of myself; I embraced them and loved them, integrating them with my new found knowledge. They were no longer a threat.

Most of us live in a state of survival with little freedom because we are unaware of our image. As Breck says “Image tears down the best part of us – because of shame and fear. Freedom builds a life, image steals one.”

Here are a few more pearls of wisdom from last night:

"Career is about relationships, not about craft."

"Bring meaning to life..."

"Risk has potential, stupidity does not."

“Goals affirm what you are not.”

“If you are afraid of losing something than you’ve already lost it…”

“Include loss in everything.”

“A victim straddles the razor blade. They are afraid of loss so they pick hope.”

“You always have a choice.”

“Suffering is resisting something that is.”

“It weakens you to complain…”

"Fantasies must die in order for dreams to come true."

May all your dreams come true...